The Bi In Dream

The Bi In~Dream~

As a woman who is confident in everything,including her sexuality. I have to share my opinion why women result to receiving companionship from the same sex. First,we are the dominant sex here in Atlanta. The males have many choices,and our choices at times can be very slim. Second,the men often are unfaithful to their partners which leads many women to be with another woman. Lastly, women admire other women and they know each others bodies,unlike some men there is no guessing about pleasing a woman-we know what we want. Also,not all women know how to effectively communicate their needs to a significant other.  In addition to,if the relationship lacks the intimacy that all women require, that also may influence a woman to pursue a same sex companion.

As a survivor of same sex child molestation, I have some knowledge and experience on the subject matter. During my adolescence I struggled with my sexuality. Never acting on the impulse to be with a woman, I disciplined myself. As a sexually active adult, the temptation is heavy;however, for me the end result would not be fulfilling. Hence, why I will never completely explore the curiosity.

I want to encourage women to work on the intimacy in their relationship. And always find ways to educate and improve yourself. I believe there is nothing wrong with liking (adoration) a woman, but when you cross over to explore with her sexually, you open yourself up to so much more (to persecution from others to pleasing both partners-your lesbian/bi lover and your heterosexual significant other can be a challenge). If that is your choice, I support you. Make sure it’s a decision that you’re okay with, and you’re getting your needs met fully.

Peace and Blessings To You,

~Dream~

Why Would A Man Say No To Sex by Ms.Atlanta Thick~Dream~

Why Would A Man Say No To Sex

Believe it or not men sometime say no to sex, listed below are some factors that could be why he is passing on sex:

He is depressed for whatever reason from self esteem issues or he has a need to be nurtured that is not being fulfilled (some men have difficulties with self image,they struggle with accepting their growing and or aging body,men have a inner “boyish” portion that needs to be nurtured if that isn’t cultivated he could suffer emotionally which causes depression)

His testosterone is low and he is suffering from andropause (symptoms of andropause include-loss of energy,lack of enthusiasm, which hinders his sex drive)

He is having erectile dysfunction (a few causes are: stress,high blood pressure,certain medications)

His role in society and his career has him stressed out (the life of a male minority has many challenges that can only be overcome with hard work and determination,men who take their role in society very seriously constantly stay focused on their image,it is not uncommon for men to have a lingering fear of failure;in addition to,he could begin to have compulsive thoughts which becomes unhealthy and leads to stress)

He is tired (from work obligations or he has a health issue that’s causing him to become tired,the origin can be from an iron deficiency to a chemical imbalance in the brain)

He’s accepting the stereotype that older adults are not supposed to be seen as sexually active beings (some men believe that aging males aren’t to be seen as sexual as they were in their youth,some men believe that they will be viewed as immature or will be categorized as a pervert if they are considered as too sexual)

He is no longer focused on his sex life and intimacy (his role as a provider may replace his desire for intimacy,also other underlying issues with intimacy may cause him to refrain from sex)

His stamina is low due to not being physically active (not performing exercise can cause a decline in libido)

He’s consuming too much alcohol (alcohol is a depressant, it can lower your sex drive,only an occasional amount of alcohol is okay to assist with sexual arousal)

Sex life and Intimacy data compiled by Ms.Atlanta Thick~Dream~

©2014Thick Dream Productions,LLC.

The Complacent Partner-Why Isn't She Kinky Enough

During the course of my life as a Web Diva, I have had many men open up to me about their sex life.  The majority of the topics have been the same-why isn’t she kinky enough in bed.

Here are some contributing factors why some women are not as freaky/kinky sexually:

*Her “freak level” may not be as high as yours. Some women are fine with the basic sexual positions. They do not require a three ring circus to achieve orgasm, they’re just simple when it comes to their pleasure.

*She may not be open to explore certain sexual acts such as fellatio or anal sex due to cultural beliefs and the stigmatisms that come along with it. Unfortunately, there are some people in the United States within certain ethnic groups, who frown upon women who perform oral sex and or receive anal sex. It is not considered the norm, and those who participate in such activities are classified as “nasty” or a whore.

*She may have had a bad experience when “new things” were presented to her sexually,such as a torn anus (from improper or zero prep of the anus).

*Some women are survivors of sexual abuse, and sex to them is for procreation and occasionally satisfying their mate. As a victim,she’s less likely to tap into a deeper form of pleasure.

*Men and women sex “cycles” are not the same. The male maybe in a period where he wants to receive oral sex versus engaging in intercourse. The female could be satisfied with just having sex and getting her toes sucked.

*Age does play a role also, sometimes when one partner is older there’s a generation gap to be considered. If she is older, menopause could be the issue. Or, she has her mindset on how sexuality is supposed to be, and is unwilling to change.  

I encourage you to talk about it, ask questions in a very tactful manner. In order to receive sex on the level you so desire, there must be communication and some compromise. ©2013 Thick Dream Productions/Ms.Atlanta Thick~Dream~